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Written by Alisha Chen

Have you ever found someone who knows you so well that you want to cry?  This is the type of tears of “finally, someone understands me!” type of happy, amazed tears and a good cry.  Yesterday, while in my hair salon appointment, I came across this video.  The title of this video caught my curiosity.  I don’t have much interest in Greek Philosophies nor do I have much knowledge of them, but from my life’s encounter so far, I can relate to the word “rarest”.  I felt so misunderstood even by my closest relatives who love me and I love them.  It has constantly been a struggle to explain myself to others.  But how do you explain why I do what I do without telling them hours and days of the experiences I have encountered my entire life each time so they understand why I say what I say and do what I do?

By the way, it is fun for me to strike out of the norms of being “grammatically correct” sometimes.  I appreciate more of getting to know personalities and characters over being “politically correct” most of the time.  I can have fun while talking about a very serious subject.  That is why I am usually a rebel.  Can’t help it, sometimes.  OK, I will try to behave now.

From my own life experiences, brief encounters sometimes lead to more misunderstandings than no encounters.  With the pressure of limited time, I find myself needing to condense some information which may lead to people having a certain perception or stereotyping that confines the expressed portion of the content given.  Those who truly have an interest in getting to know you will ask questions they would like clarification.  Most others just interpret their ways.  But there is no other way to prevent misunderstandings unless you give a long answer.  However, in the world we live in today, who has time for long answers?  Therefore, we force everyone else to misunderstand everyone else with this microwave culture; fast and to the point but very unhealthy and harmful.  Therefore, the more I know, the more I need to know to prevent misunderstandings.

How we perceive things is often embedded into our minds about that person.  If quality time is not spent to further understand each other, unknown wrong perceptions may start to root in us until that root is so deep that it takes a lot of “un-doing” first before further relationship can grow.

Whether in personal life or business interactions, healthy relationships are important to have a successful and pleasant transaction to achieve goals.

I find reading books and getting degrees set by the education system is far from reality nor useful.  The University of “Doing Life” has taught me more useful information and experiences that thousands of books are unable to fully express.  On the contrary, I find many education systems place me into a box that forces me to rid of who I am, and how I am wired to “conform” to the norm.

Oh, the internal struggles of knowing that are slowly killing who I am, what I believe, and the direction of how I want to grow.  The world defines our success by how many financial and tangible assets we have…” the end result”.  However, our world now places little value or no value at all on the process itself, which I believe is the most important aspect of a person’s development.  No, I was not born like this as the above video described.  Who I am today was developed through lots of walking step-by-step through life and overcoming every challenge and many painful ones.

Our society defines how successful of a person we are by the number of friends we have on Facebook, social media, and how many people say hi to us everywhere we go.  I define friends as those who have invested in me to develop a deep, rooted relationship that is so precious that makes life worth living.  I define those who only know my name, my face, my physical attributes, and surface information about me are just acquaintances.  I have a few thousand acquaintances but no friends except for this video who knows me so well.  Would that be shameful to say?  To me, not shameful, just honest.  How many friends (by my definition) do you have?  If you have just one friend by my definition, you are wealthy!  Most people I’ve had this type of talk will admit they have no friends by my definition.  Yet, all of them desire to have these deep-rooted friendships.  So why is this?

Any deep-rooted relationships to any level require the investment of time, patience, open-mindedness, and willingness.  Each minute you choose to spend on something, you sacrifice something else for it.  Your priorities and actions dictate what is valuable to you.  How many of us say relationships are the most valuable commodity in the world, but yet our choice of actions says otherwise?  Why?  Because it is easier to do something you know how or have more control over.  It requires honesty, and vulnerability to develop deep relationships.  In the world today, the silent culture indirectly tells us that there is too much risk.  Also, who likes to be judged or rejected?

While everyone I know would like to be understood, when it comes down to decision-making, most still choose NOT to invest in that.  The discomfort is that extensive to most people.  To me, I am not afraid to die tomorrow, but I am afraid to live a life of losing who I am.  I rather die trying and knowing that I did the best I could than regret the death bed.  With a nursing background, I’ve talked to countless people who have regretted placing the “world’s” definition of priorities in life and it is now too late for them to do anything about it.  People like Steve Jobs also admitted this during the last portion of his life before his death.  I rather live a short life and know I lived it to the fullest than live a long life of lost purpose.  That’s just my perspective on life.  I am not suggesting everyone else should have this outlook in life.  This is just my honest outlook on life.  In other words, I prefer a life of bravery instead of fear or just being alive.  To me, that is the true definition of freedom.

What about you?  What is something that is heart-to-heart that has been on your mind?  Feel free to reach out to me.  The only requirements are honesty and open-mindedness (non-judgmental).

Especially if you are a Sigma man or woman (described by these videos), let’s connect and support one another since we have been very misunderstood by most.  We can encourage one another and continue to be who we are safely and respectfully.

On a bigger scale, we can come together to build beautiful and sustainable lifestyles to change things for the better.
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Alisha’s Like-Minded Quotes

  1. “Common sense is the foundation for hope, justice, and sustainability.” ~Alisha Chen
  2. “Justice delayed is justice denied.” ~William E Gladstone
  3. “If we stand for nothing, we fall for anything” ~Alexander Hamilton
  4. “Never do anything against conscience even if the state demands it.” ~Albert Einstein
  5. “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.” ~Albert Einstein
  6. “Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.  You need experience to gain wisdom.”     ~Albert Einstein
  7. “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny.  Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”     ~Martin Luther King, Jr.
  8. “Everyone knew it was impossible, until a fool who didn’t know came along and did it.” ~Albert Einstein
  9. “A trustworthy person is one who tells you the truth despite potential negative consequences to him or herself.” ~Alisha Chen
  10. “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.” ~Albert Einstein
  11. “Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are.” ~Benjamin Franklin
  12. “Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.” ~Albert Einstein
  13. “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” ~Albert Einstein
  14. “Various people can be at the same place, same time, same event, but personal insights gathered usually determines the value and degree of vision of each person.” ~Alisha Chen
  15. “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” ~Albert Einstein
  16. “Everything that exists in your life, does so because of two things: something you did or something you didn’t do.”     ~Albert Einstein
  17. “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change.  Invariably they are both disappointed.”     ~Albert Einstein
  18. “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” ~Albert Einstein
  19. “Kindness and justice are not synonymous. Be kind and advocate and work for justice.  Lives depend on it.”     ~Bernice King
  20. “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”     ~Albert Einstein
  21. Don’t listen to the person who has the answers; listen to the person who has the questions.” ~Albert Einstein
  22. “Assumptions and judgments without diligent verifications are often the root of problems.” ~Alisha Chen
  23. “The only thing more dangerous than ignorance is arrogance.” ~Albert Einstein
  24. “Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” ~Albert Einstein
  25. “We usually base our decisions on tolerance or principle.” ~Alisha Chen
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A Day in Life

Last Wednesday, a passenger in a taxi heading for Stafford station leaned over to ask the driver a question and gently tapped him on the shoulder to get his attention. The driver screamed, lost control of the cab, nearly hit a bus, drove up over the curb and stopped just inches from a large plate glass window. For a few moments, everything was silent in the cab. Then the shaking driver said “Are you OK?  I’m so sorry, but you scared the daylights out of me.” The badly shaken passenger apologized to the driver and said, “I didn’t realize that a mere tap on the shoulder would startle someone so badly.” The driver replied, “No, no, I’m the one who is sorry. It’s entirely my fault. Today is my very first day driving a cab. I’ve been driving a hearse for 25 years.” ~ A reported true story from Manchester Evening Times
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The Gingham Dress

A lady in a faded gingham dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun threadbare suit, stepped off the train in Boston, and walked timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President’s outer office. The secretary could tell in a moment that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard & probably didn’t even deserve to be in Cambridge . “We’d like to see the president,” the man said softly. “He will be busy all day,” the secretary snapped. “We will wait,” the lady replied. For hours the secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would finally become discouraged and go away. They didn’t, and the secretary grew frustrated and finally decided to disturb the president, even though it was a chore she always regretted. “Maybe if you see them for a few minutes, they’ll leave,” she said to him! He sighed in exasperation and nodded. Someone of his importance obviously didn’t have the time to spend with them, and he detested gingham dresses and homespun suits cluttering up his outer office. The president, stern faced and with dignity, strutted toward the couple. The lady told him!, “We had a son who attended Harvard for one year. He loved Harvard. He was happy here. But about a year ago, he was accidentally killed. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial to him, somewhere on campus.” The president wasn’t touched. He was shocked. “Madam,” he said, gruffly, “we can’t put up a statue for every person who attended Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery..” “Oh, no,” the lady explained quickly. “We don’t want to erect a statue. We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard.” The president rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and homespun suit, then exclaimed, “A building! Do you have any earthly idea how much a building costs? We have over seven and a half million dollars in the physical buildings here at Harvard.” For a moment the lady was silent. The president was pleased. Maybe he could get rid of them now. The lady turned to her husband and said quietly, “Is that all it costs to start a university? Why don’t we just start our own? ” Her husband nodded. The president’s face wilted in confusion and bewilderment. Mr. and Mrs. Leland Stanford got up and walked away, traveling to Palo Alto, California where they established the university that bears their name, Stanford University, a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about. You can easily judge the character of others by how they treat those who they think can do nothing for them. A TRUE STORY By Malcolm Forbes I hope to keep this in mind whenever I start to judge.
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FYI: Here’s a portion of my personal list of beliefs that you may want to pass on

I believe I’m a work-in-progress, and there will always be a gap between who I am and who I want to be. I believe every day brings opportunities to learn and to do something meaningful. I believe the true test of my character is whether I do the right thing even when it might cost more than I want to pay. I believe no matter how I behave, some people will be mean-spirited, dishonest, irresponsible, and unkind, but if I fight fire with fire, all I’ll end up with will be the ashes of my own integrity. I believe life is full of joys and sorrows, and my happiness will depend on how well I handle each. I believe pain is inevitable but suffering is optional, and if I can control my attitudes, I can control my life. I believe kindness really matters, and sarcastic comments and badly-timed criticisms can cause lasting hurt. I believe there’s joy in gratitude and freedom in forgiveness, but both require conscientious effort. I believe what’s fun and pleasurable isn’t always good for me, and what’s good for me isn’t always fun and pleasurable. I believe no one’s happy all the time, but in the end, I can be as happy as I’m willing to be. I believe the surest road to happiness is good relationships. This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts
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Saying Grace in a Restaurant – Priceless!

    Sometimes we forget the really important things in life. Last week, I took my grand-children to a restaurant. My six-year-old grand-son asked if he could say grace. As we bowed our heads he said, “God is good, God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Nana gets us ice cream for dessert. And liberty and justice for all! Amen!” Along with the laughter from the other customers nearby, I heard a woman remark, “That’s what’s wrong with this country. Kids today don’t even know how to pray. Asking God for ice cream! Why, I never!” Hearing this, my grand-son burst into tears and asked me, “Did I do it wrong? Is God mad at me?” As I held him and assured him that he had done a terrific job, and God was certainly not mad at him, an elderly gentleman approached the table. He winked at my grand-son and said, “I happen to know that God thought that was a great prayer.” “Really?” my grand-son asked. “Cross my heart,” the man replied. Then, in a theatrical whisper, he added (indicating the woman whose remark had started this whole thing), “Too bad she never asks God for ice cream. A little ice cream is good for the soul sometimes.” Naturally, I bought my grand-children ice cream at the end of the meal. My grand-son stared at his for a moment, and then did something I will remember the rest of my life. He picked up his sundae and, without a word, walked over and placed it in front of the woman. With a big smile he told her, “Here, this is for you. Ice cream is good for the soul sometimes; and my soul is good already.” The End I love this story!  The purpose of this story is not about religion but the underlying human attitude and behaviors. Sometimes, we all need some ice cream.
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Interesting Math

If the 26 letters of the English alphabets of: A, B, C, D, E…..X, Y, Z is converted to percentage respectively as listed below:

A=1% B =2% C=3% D=4% E=5% F=6% G=7% H=8% I=9% J=10% K=11% L=12% M=13% N=14% O=15% P=16% Q=17% R=18% S=19% T=20% U=21% V=22% W=23% X=24% Y=25% Z=26%

Then we would have the following interesting conclusions:

1. H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K = 8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

2. K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E = 11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%

3. L+O+V+E = 12+5+22+5 = 54%

4. L+U+C+K = 12+21+3+11 = 47%

Then, all these above items which we value so much are not perfect, although they are important. Then what will let our lives become perfect?

5. Is it money? NO M+O+N+E+Y = 13+15+14+5+25 = 72%

6.Is it Leadership? NO L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P = 12+5+1+4+5+18+19+9+16 = 89%

7. Is it Sex? NO S+E+X = 19+24+5 = 48%

Then, what can make our lives 100% perfect?

8. It’s Attitude = 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%

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Food as Medicine

This information is intended to provide an interesting article for the readers. Although some people have reported this information to work for them, please consult your Physician for the accuracy of this information before putting it into practice. We will not be liable for its accuracy.
  1. Headache? Eat Fish / Ginger Eat plenty of fish…fish oil helps prevent headaches. Ginger also does the same, which reduces inflammation & pain.
  2. To Prevent Stroke, Drink Tea! Prevent the buildup of fatty deposits on artery walls w regular doses of tea (actually, tea suppresses my appetite & keeps the pounds from invading…Green Tea is great for our immune system!)
  3. Insomnia (can’t sleep?) Honey! Use honey as a tranquilizer and sedative.
  4. Hay Fever? Eat Yogurt / Honey Eat lots of yogurt or honey before pollen season.
  5. Asthma? Eat Onions! Eating onions helps ease the constriction of bronchial tubes (when I was young, my mother would make onion packs to place on our chest, helped the respiratory ailments & actually made us breathe better!
  6. Upset Stomach? Bananas / Ginger Bananas will settle an upset stomach. Ginger will cure morning sickness & nausea.
  7. Arthritis? Eat Fish too! Salmon, tuna, mackerel & sardines actually prevent arthritis (fish has omega oils, good for our immune system.)
  8. Bone Problems? Eat Pineapple Bone fractures & osteoporosis can be prevented by the manganese in pineapple.
  9. Bladder Infection? Drink Cranberry Juice! High-acid Cranberry juice controls harmful bacteria.
  10. Premenstrual Syndrome? Eat Cornflakes! Women can ward off the effects of PMS with Cornflakes, which help reduce depression, anxiety and fatigue.
  11. Memory Problems? Eat Oysters! Oysters help improve your mental functioning by supplying much-needed Zinc.
  12. Colds? Eat Garlic! Clear up that stuffy head with garlic (remember, garlic lowers Cholesterol too)
  13. Coughing? Use Red Peppers! A substance similar to that found in cough syrup is found in hot red pepper. Use red (Cayenne) pepper with caution…it can irritate your tummy.
  14. Breast Cancer? Eat Wheat, Bran & Cabbage. Wheat, Bran & Cabbage help to maintain estrogen at healthy levels.
  15. Lung Cancer? Eat Dark Green & Orange Veggies! A good antidote is beta carotene, a form of Vitamin A found in dark green & orange vegetables.
  16. Diarrhea? Eat Apples / Bananas Grate an apple with its skin, let it turn brown, and eat it to cure this condition.
  17. Ulcers? Eat Cabbage also. Cabbage contains chemicals that help heal both gastric & duodenal ulcers.
  18. Clogged arteries? Eat Avocado! Mono-unsaturated fat in avocados lowers cholesterol.
  19. High Blood Pressure? Eat Celery & Olive Oil Olive oil has been shown to lower blood pressure. Celery contains a chemical that lowers pressure too.
  20. Blood Sugar Imbalance? Eat Broccoli & Peanuts! The Chromium in broccoli & peanuts helps regulate insulin & blood sugar.
  21. Kiwi: Tiny but mighty! This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, vitamin E & fiber. Its vitamin C content is twice that of an orange.
  22. Apple: Does an apple a day keeps the doctor away? Although an apple has a low vitamin C content, it has antioxidants and flavonoid which enhances the activity of vitamin C, thereby helping to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack & stroke.
  23. Strawberry: Protective fruit…Strawberries have the highest total antioxidant power among major fruits and protect the body from cancer-causing, blood vessel clogging, and free radicals (actually, any berry is good for you. They’re high in antioxidants). Blueberries are the best and very versatile in the health field…they get rid of all the free radicals that invade our bodies.
  24. Oranges: Sweetest medicine. Taking 2-4 oranges a day may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent and dissolute kidney stones as well as lessen the risk of colon cancer.
  25. Watermelon: Coolest thirst quencher. Composed of 92% water. It is also packed with a giant dose of glutathione which help boost our immune system. They are also a key source of Lycopene-the cancer-fighting oxidant. Other nutrients found in watermelon are vitamin C and Potassium (watermelon also has natural substances of SPF that keep our skin healthy, protecting our skin from those daring UV rays!
  26. Guava & Papaya: Top awards for Vitamin C. They are the clear winners for their high vitamin C content. Guava is also rich in fiber which helps prevent constipation. Papaya is rich in Carotene. This is good for your eyes, gas & indigestion.
  27. Tomatoes: are very good as preventative measures for men. Keep those prostate problems from invading their bodies.
Wishing you health, happiness & success!
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